The Criminal In Your Shoes…

“People are being stupid!” my daughter said while we watched the TV news. “Why is everyone so upset about the TSA scanning people? Don’t people want to be safe when they fly?” I assured her that except for a handful of crazy, hell-bent terrorists, everyone who gets on an airplane wants to arrive safely at…

Suburban Drama…

Earlier this week, a blue Honda Civic wagon parked across the street from my house with a young woman inside. I noticed the car when I took out the trash around 7:30 am. It was still there a couple of hours later when I went to my daughter’s school. Likely, I wouldn’t have noticed the…

The Two-Way Street

Years ago as I was building a new team, I would walk out of my office a few times a week and ask if anyone wanted to go to lunch. Some had previous lunch plans; some had already eaten; and a few would say “Sure”. And there was always one who would ask this: “Where…

Time To Have Your Eyes Checked

If you don’t like what you see in front of you, you might try looking in a different direction. Or you might take a look at the glasses on your face. Sometimes it’s not the world that needs changing as much as the lens we view it through. Ever notice how when you’re tired, grumpy,…

Relationship ROI

Last year, my daughter tried to convince me that getting her an iPhone would be “a great investment.” I had to explain to her the difference between an expense and an investment. An expense is the outlay of money to pay for an item or service; an investment is the outlay of money in order…

Revisionist History

We all rewrite our own personal histories when we don’t like the outcomes, the truth “sends the wrong message”, or we find the truth of a given situation too embarrassing to admit. For example, during the days of my mas macho youth, I told people that I cracked a tooth as a result of a…

911

I stood in the lobby talking with Shelly, a colleague who had traveled up from Quincy, IL for a meeting in our Chicago headquarters. We stood chatting about what was new in our lives when my boss, Ray, walked up to us with a dazed look . “Did you hear? A plane just hit the…

The Excuse of Imperfection…

What kind of person are you? Are you the type that won’t ever try anything new because you know that you will be imperfect? Or are you the type that keeps pushing forward, accepting (…or is it excepting?) that imperfection allows you to learn, that imperfection gives you an opportunity to improve and correct problems…

Handling Criticism the Ed Sullivan Way…

The Ed Sullivan Show aired from 1948 to 1971, making it one of the longest lasting variety shows ever on television. But Ed Sullivan had his critics, especially in the early days. When Ed Sullivan started appearing on television, Time Magazine said: “He moves like a sleepwalker; his smile is that of a man sucking…

The Truth about Failure…

If you want to succeed, you need to be smart and work hard, right? And if you accept that premise, the opposite must be true also: people who fail are stupid and lazy. That’s a load of crap. People succeed or fail largely because of the stories they tell themselves, the stories they believe, and…

Making Peace With Your “Cats”

A couple of weeks ago, I detailed the trials of a friend who wanted a dog…but got a cat. If you missed it, catch up here. This challenge happens in many of the relationships in our lives. At work, we hire someone to do A, B, and C, but after a short time we determine…

The Power of Adversity: Steven Slater vs. Stevie Ray Vaughan

Recently, I listened to an interview held with guitar legend, the late Stevie Ray Vaughan. Texas-born Vaughan was the master of blues guitar, and his creativity and improvisational style put him in an exclusive group with such talented contemporary musicians as Eric Clapton and Jimi Hendrix. During the interview, Stevie talked about his first and…